How does one who has never smoked before become a chain smoker after some time?
How does one who was a virgin some years back become a sex addict who can't stay without it for a day?
How do we explain that this person who tasted alcohol while he was 18 is now a serious drunk at 22?
It started from a bite of chocolate but it feels like my life depends on it, what's wrong with me?
I'm sure you can relate with these instances as you may fall into one of these category or know someone who does.
It is important to know how addictions are formed because when we do, it is easier to break free from them because there is a pattern or better still avoid them.
1. Every addiction starts from a thought. Yes, a thought. My mentor Praise Fowowe would say "A thought is not a sin until it is been given a thought". Thoughts are seeds- if you water them, they would grow. If you nuture them they would germinate and bear forth fruits. If you don't want a thought to grow, kill it from the very beginning, from the roots. In fact, it starts from UNCONSCIOUS thoughts, that means the thought flashed your mind without your deliberate effort. And then it swings over to CONSCIOUS thoughts if you allow it stay long enough. At this point, you deliberately allow the thoughts to flow.
2. If the seed of addiction successfully passes through the " Thought stage", it graduates to the ACTION stage. If you can hold it long enough in your mind,it will happen with time. If you can hold it long enough in your mind, it will happen in real time. Everything is created twice like a wise man posited, first in your mind and then in real life. The same goes with addictions.
And that is why EXPERIMENTATIONS can be dangerous. A lot of people, I mean a whole lot of people addicted to one thing or the other today, started out by experimenting. "Let me see how it is" "This is the only time I would try it" "Just this once" "Everybody is doing it so let me just try it out"- these statements have been the bane of so many. Don't be among the statistics.
3. HABIT: As it moves from conscious thoughts to action and then it becomes habit- repeated actions. Research has it that whatever you do consecutively for 21days becomes a habit. And then after the habit has been consolidated, it becomes....
4. ADDICTION: An uncontrollable desire to do something. What you could have controlled at the thoughts stage or worse still action stage.
Action is like a strand of broom but addiction is like a bunch of broom made up of so many strands(actions). Olakunle Soriyan was right when he said " Every action is a step towards mastery".
What are you mastering?
And I'm sure you know that it is easier to break a strand of broom than a bunch but then bunch of brooms can still be broken; they are just broken with superior power.
It starts by acknowledging that you need help
Do you need help?
Talk to me dear.
I value you!
Miracle O. Ihuoma
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