Hmmm…I guess you familiar
with that phrase, our topic. In case you are not, “friends with benefit” is
having a friend of the opposite sex (usually) that you are not in an intimate
relationship with to satisfy your sexual appetite.
Going back memory lane, you
will discover or remember that it used to be unusual to have sex with somebody
you are not married to (at least in the African culture), then it became usual
but still unusual to copulate with somebody you are not in a love relationship
with. But today, the concept of “friends with benefit” is spreading like wild
fire. In fact it has been acted as a movie.
Looking at it integrally, it
is of my opinion that it is good to have friends with benefit (or don’t you
think so?)-Friends that will benefit you one way or the other. But looking at
it from the other spectrum, what benefit is a friend who wants to sleep with
you without any emotional, legal, traditional or spiritual commitment?
Well, I can only think of one
benefit- Instant gratification! Or is a benefit that you have lost touch with
your creator through the act? Or that you may become infected with STD or STI
in the process? Or that you may become pregnant out of wedlock as a lady and
may decide to abort it which predisposes you to either death or other
complications? And the most annoying of all these is that you will go through
all these because of a person you barely know who cares less about your future.
Think about it. Or maybe I don’t understand the meaning of “benefit” again.
Maybe we should consult the dictionary- here is what it says: “Benefit is an
advantage that something gives you; a helpful and useful effect something has”.
So the big question is what advantage does it give you? How helpful and useful
has the effect been?
If you really need a friend
or friends with benefit why not go out there and get right thinking and right
living people that will be of advantage to you and your destiny; people that
will have a helpful and useful effect on you rather than flirting with people
that have put their destinies on hold and are trying by all means to put yours
too. If you go ahead and continue doing this, please make sure not to call it
“friends with benefit” but rather “foes with disfavor”. Cheers!
