DATE TO MARRY

Why do you want to date? If you are dating already, why are you dating? Are you stunned by that question? Does it seem like I am being confrontational? Please I apologize if I am. But do you know that more than 70% of people will have to think for some time before answering that question? And a good chunk of the remaining percentage will become defensive or just ignore the question. But if you don’t ‘why’ you are doing something, I don’t think you should be doing it. Hmmm…how true is that? Considering the fact that a lot of young people are dating now not because of any logical reason but rather how they feel. Have you realized that one of the prevalent characteristics of a mad person or lightly put ‘mentally challenged’ person is that (s)he does things without reasons (knowing why)? Please don’t get me wrong, I have not said you are in sane if you are dating and don’t know why and I don’t intend saying it but I’m just trying to broaden your horizon and expand your awareness on this pertinent issue. I remember how this question asked above caused an uproar in my room in the university. The three persons I asked were perplexed and dumbfounded and two could not give me any logical reason at the end of the day, while one said he was dating because he needed to be satisfying his sexual desire. Obviously, non of them wanted to marry the ladies they were going out with. It got me thinking, of course if you know me you will know that I think a lot. But the truth is that if you are dating a person because of sex, I don’t think you are suppose to be dating, what you actually need a prostitute or better put a sex partner. If you are dating because you are lonely, what you need is a company not a date. Dating should be a time for preparation before marriage. Dating should be a time for interview (not intercourse)- getting to know the person you have intention to get married to, all things remaining equal. Dating is suppose to lead to marriage. Date to marry! A lot of people have reduced dating to having fun and whiling away time but I don’t think that was and is the idea behind dating. Every journey you embark on should have a destination. You can’t embark on a journey without knowing where you are going. In the same vein you shouldn't embark into the journey of a love relationship without the end in mind (marriage). Have a big picture (marriage), then start from now (dating). Date to marry.

MAINTAINING SUCCESS

Philosophy: “Charisma without character will lead to catastrophe” You know, it is easy to blame those that have succeeded and still exhibit some character flaws as being undisciplined. But I have come to realize that it is more difficult to maintain success than to achieve it. What builds a house is not what maintains it, so also what takes you to the top is not what keeps you there. Skills and charisma will take you to the top said a wise man but character will keep you there- Potentials, talents and skills may only make you successful but it takes character to maintain that success. It is true that we can’t totally live without flaws, but your ability to minimize your weakness by maximizing your strength is what matters. There are some people’s names I will mention and you may not be able to point out any visible weakness that they possess not because they don’t have but because it has been minimized. Like somebody said that “Success is the ability to minimize your error”. There are three areas everybody must be able to master very well to remain successful: 1. SEX: Your sex life is not a news yet because you are not yet a news, when you become a news, your sex life will also become a news. Imagine if president Obama sleeps with a lady today, CNN,SKY NEWS, NTA, AIT, Network, New York Times, Punch and son will all carry the news but me and you do it today, nobody may know except we and the person that did it. The sex drive is the strongest drive we have in human nature, so your ability to manage it matters a lot. Bill Clinton was supposed to be the best president America ever produced but he wasn't. Why? Because he slept with Mornica Lewinsky. Ethyl Messin was supposed to be one of the greatest footballers Nigeria ever produced but today rots in prison because of a sex scandal. Samuel B. Kent, a federal district judge in Texas was impeached because of a sex scandal also. Can you see how sex brought these great men down? If there is no other reason why you should abstain from sex outside the marriage environment, do it because you want to be great. 2. POWER: Abraham Lincoln the 16th president of America said “Adversity is not the true test of character but power is (paraphrased)”. To still paraphrase that statement, you don’t test a man’s character when he is facing adversity, you only test his/her character is by giving him/ power. Power will either make or break you. Power can puff up power can pay off. Machiavellian said “Power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely”. If you still force people to do things for instance, you are not a true leader, you are probably an authoritarian. You should use power positively, as a means to be a blessing to others. 3. MONEY: Money makes, money mars. Is it not amazing that the only thing God compared with Himself in the bible is money? Not even the devil. Money answers all things but the Love of money is the fruit of all evil. Money is the reason why prostitutes are in the brothel, money is the reason why armed robbers are on the high way, money is the reason why tricksters do exist. Money! Money! Money! But you don’t get money by pursuing it, you get it by positioning yourself. Get money wisely, use money wisely, and invest money wisely! In a nutshell, you cannot remain successful without character