THE MAN AS THE HEAD

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It is clear that God made the man as the head of the wife, although not as a sign of superiority but of role and responsibility. I laugh sometimes when i see men bragging with the fact that they are the head of the family, not knowing that, that confers grave responsibility on them of which many men have not lived up to. By the time men begin to know that their wives are their responsibilities, life will get better. The wife is a revelation of the husband. It is as simple as show me your wife and i will tell you who you are. The head of a human being as far as I know performs several functions including thinking (through the brain), seeing (through the eyes), hearing/listening (through the ears), perceiving (through the nose) and talking (through the mouth). As a man, your responsibility includes these. The brain is found in the head, and one of its major function is thinking. And thinking leads to fruitfulness and productivity. As the head, re you living up to this standard? Solomon Jesse said “A good man will leave an inheritance for his children’s children”. This is the fruit of thinking. Why do men shout at your wives when they did not cook and get angry at their children when they ask them for school fees. Remember, if you cannot take care of your family you are worse than an infidel. If you cannot take care of your family why did you marry in the first place and as if that wasn’t enough gave birth to six children- bringing them to this world to suffer. Just a note of remembrance; the first thing God told Adam to do was not to marry but to be productive, He said to him “Take care of the garden”. If you are not thinking and in turn unfruitful and unproductive, you are not fit to be the head of a woman. Seeing obviously, is also a function of the head because the eyes are found there in. In the prophesy of Joel, it is contained that young men will see visions and daughters will prophesy which is an interpretation of the vision men have seen. But how disheartening it is that I see a lot of wives who see clearer than their husbands. What a shame! It cannot be overemphasized how important vision is. As the head, it is imperative that we see ahead, for that is what made us the head in the first place- Ability to cast a vision while our wives follow. Women are suppose to be our help mates, but what will they be helping with when there is no vision to run with. The vision of a wife is subject to that of her husband, so why limit the potentials of a woman because of a lack of vision. And it is also a pity how many spinsters look at what a man has materially ahead of where he is going before considering him for marriage. If a man has money without vision, it is only a matter of time before the money vanishes. But if he has a valid vision (because some are not valid), he can always reproduce money. So men what do you see? The ear is another organ found in the head which is of great importance. This organ is primarily used for hearing and furthermore listening. The responsibility of a man as the head using his ear are in two dimensions- Listening to God and listening to his wife. How many men/husbands can boldly say they hear from God? How many men can confidently say in front of their wives that they emphatically listen to them? Hearing from God sets the pace for you success in life and home. It is a proof of spiritual maturity. Paul of tarsus said “As many that are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God”. If you don’t hear from God how do you expect your children to hear you? And then listening to your wife is very important. You have to know that one of the primary needs of a woman is to be listened to. I have seen men who literally have no regard for the needs of their wives, yet expect their wives to be sensitive to theirs. It doesn't work that way. Emphatic listening is key. Like Stephen Covey said, there are five levels of listening- Ignoring, Pretending, Selective, Attentive and emphatic listening. Non of the four is a replacement for emphatic listening. Sometimes, a woman does not need an advising tongue but a listening ear. But it is a pity how many husbands are either speaking or preparing to speak. God gave us two ears and one mouth like somebody said, to listen more and talk less. On a lighter mood, why are your ears up and your mouth down on your face? Doesn't that suggest to you that in the hierarchy of being the head, the ears are up lines to your mouth? This is more than a joke. Talking is silver, listening is gold. Perceiving in this context means sensitivity. Oh! How insensitive are so many men- They don’t want to care about how their wives feel, all they are concerned about is what they want. Remember, you are first a human being (that should have others at heart) before a husband (as the head). But ironically, being the head /husband confers a higher responsibility of sensitivity. Raising your hands on your wife, of course is gross insensitivity. Forcing her to have sex with you out of her convenience is also insensitivity. Learning to say sorry, please, thank you, I love you and so on is sensitivity! As a man, you are not immune to simple ethics and courtesy. Some men are the lion of the tribe of their homes, their children flee when they hear the horn of their cars and run to their hiding places, even their wives see them as small gods that are unapproachable. And lastly, you have mouth that James metaphorically described as the helm of a ship that directs the movement of the whole ship. You hear God, see what He is saying (vision) and communicate it with your mouth. I recommend that every man should learn communication skills as they will always have an audience- Your family! I wonder how many men will cope if women were still told to ask their husbands at home whatever they did not understand in church. Because it is a pity that many wives are more learned than their husbands. In my own opinion, every husband should know a bit more than the wife- you may not know more than the wife of another man but please know more than your wife. And this does not mean you should stop her from learning but that you should keep learning. As far as I am concerned, you shape your wife with your mouth, because women are naturally shaped by words. But how outrageous is it that some husbands don’t positively affirm their wives with words. How funny is it that some husbands can’t remember when last they told their wives “I love you”. Women are influenced by words more than any other thing, so men we must use our tongues right. It is better to keep quiet than to say the wrong thing. So do we see that being the head of the family is not a phrase to feed your ego? It is a call to responsibility. The reason God gave us this responsibility is because He knows that we have the potential to deliver. Therefore, we must not fail God, we will not fail our wives, we will not fail our children and we will not fail our generation!