Do you want to know the
reason why a lot of people are not married? There are a lot of reasons anyway,
but one of many is that they want to marry strangers. Do you also know why we
have a lot of divorce and separation? One of the many reasons is that people
marry strangers and not their friends.
I have seen ladies and guys
alike say blatantly that they cannot marry their friends. And if you are close
to me, you would have observed that I like to ask a lot of questions especially
the “why?” question. So when I ask them the “why?” question, I get a lot of
flimsy reasons which gives me stomach upset. Can somebody please tell me how in
the world somebody will prefer to marry someone they just met over someone they
have known? This like we stated earlier is the reason many singles are not
married. They are looking at Sokoto (a northern state in Nigeria) when what
they are looking for is in their Sokoto’ (Yoruba word for under wear).
If you are ready to get
married and nobody is coming or you don’t seem to be seeing anybody, make a
list of your friends of the opposite sex, look at the list critically, your
spouse may just be there. I will not be surprise if some persons have no name
on their list- can you see the problem now? In case you don’t have names to
list, make a conscious decision right now to build viable friendships, please
not with desperation or with an intention just to get married.
Also remember
that where you go determines who sees you and if you are not seen or you don’t
see, you cannot get married- go out to worthwhile places and stop sitting at
home complaining of old age! Please also be careful of the places you make
friends from as the kinds of friends you make determine the kind of husband or
wife you will marry. Don’t expect to marry from the club and have an angel as a
wife. Selah.
Remember we also said that
the failure of people to marry their friends is one of the reasons for divorce
and separation in many homes. Friendship is the foundation for every lasting
love relationship. When you marry a stranger, how do you communicate and gist
as friends do? There is already a wide gap that needs to be closed. The major
thing couples do is talk and it takes friends to talk. And please don’t say you
will develop the friendship in marriage. It is like saying that you will grow
as a child in adulthood (wrong timing!). It is something you don’t want to
risk. And it is friendship that reveals compatibility- you can’t know if you
will be compatible as couples if you have never been friends and that is why
when couples that have never been friends realize that, they are not compatible,
it is always too late.
Please don’t get me wrong,
I’m not saying that somebody that is your friend presently qualifies to be your
spouse- that is not always the case. In fact, you cannot marry all your friends
and there are some of your friends you cannot get married to for a variety of
reasons ranging from attraction to compatibility. So what am I saying? Marry
your friend! Whether the person is your friend presently or not, make him/her
your friend before you get married. If you have been friends for a while, fine.
If you have not been, build friendship first, bond for at least six months to
one year (my personal bias). In all marry your friend!
After reading this, does
anybody still want to marry a stranger? If you do you must be a
witch/wizard.lol
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