Philosophy: “Say
unto wisdom, thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman that they
may keep you from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with
her words”- Solomon Jesse
Temptation is a common phenomenon;
in fact sexual temptation is a common phenomenon. Everybody that has passed
puberty age whether male or female has been tempted sexually- no matter how
religious you are, you will be sexually tempted. If you have not been tempted,
you need one out of two things- to see a medical doctor or to go for
deliverance; so make your choice. Even Jesus as holy and righteous as He was
also tempted while on earth (Heb4:15).
Temptation as defined by the
oxford advance learner’s dictionary is the desire to do or have something that
you know is bad or wrong. This tells us that every temptation including sexual
temptation emanates from our lust (desire) for something. For instance, an
average lady feels like having sex at least once a month and twenty times a year,
irrespective of how spiritual or knowledgeable she is. And for men, we feel
like having sex at least once every seventy two hours. You cannot be tempted with what you don’t have a prior desire for.
Watch it, it is not a sin to
be sexually aroused or tempted neither is it a bad thing like I said earlier
on, I think what is bad is not feeling aroused; because this stuff is a product
of hormonal (biological) functions which was put in there by God himself. So
each time you feel like having sex, lift up your hands and give God praise
because your endocrine system is functioning properly. What can be bad is
acting or falling for the desire/temptation. Like my mentor Praise Fowowe would
say, “A (sexual) thought is not a sin until it is been given a thought”. What
that means is that a thought that flashes through your mind is not a sin until
you start processing it and eventually act on it.
So how do we overcome this
dilemma that has befallen a lot of people, good, bad and ugly? If you will
agree with me, when it comes to sex, emotion is stronger than reason(ing). In
other words how you feel can sometimes overshadow what you think. In fact
research has shown that the part of the brain that controls
intelligence/reasoning is also the part that controls our sexuality, which
accounts for why it looks like everything we know comes to a standstill when we
are consumed with our urge for sex (Does anybody relate with what I’m saying or
am I the only one that has experienced this?). Because the truth is that
everyone that has a conscience knows that sex outside the marriage environment
is wrong and some persons even have additional information as to the
consequences of sex outside the marriage environment, yet they fall victim of
sexual temptations even after confessing the previous Sunday or saying to
themselves with every form of sincerity and willingness “I will never do it
again!”.
The black and white truth is
that knowledge alone which is very good will not deliver you from sexual
temptations, but WISDOM will. Amongst the numerous definitions of wisdom is
“knowing HOW to go about a matter”. Solomon Jesse said “The labour of the foolish
wearies everyone of them, because he knows not HOW to go to the city”. And the
opposite of foolishness is wisdom. The wiser man will always overcome
temptations better than the stronger man. I have discovered that many of the
people that have fallen for sexual temptation were strong people or people who
thought they were strong while many of the people that have overcome sexual
temptations are people who valued wisdom over strength or thought they were not
strong enough and employed wisdom. And what does wisdom say? FLEE
FORNICATION!!!. It did not say explain, analyze, mentor, or change it says
FLEE! But the truth of the matter is that people who fall into sexual
temptations want to do one of the things we mentioned above. Flee is from the
word fly which is a step above run. It actually means to run in terror- If you
have watched how cartoon characters “run” you will know what I’m talking about.
A man of God shared a story
of how a lady came into his office for counseling with her breast half exposed
and the next thing he started hearing in his mind was grab it, grab it and he
had to run out of the office to overcome- that’s an example of what it means to
flee from fornication. I tell people that you may not be stronger than Samson
Manoah, you may not be braver than David Jesse but you can be wiser than
Solomon especially in the area of sex. Flee! What are you doing with that
lady/guy by 11:00pm behind closed doors yet you are complaining of sexual temptation?
Why are you kissing and smooching and complaining of sexual temptation?
My friend, the best place to
stop a thief as at the gate not when he has entered your bed room. May your
wisdom increase in handling situations!
Quote: “Abstain
from all appearance of evil”- Paul of Tarsus.
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