There happen to be seven
dimensions to our lives, and I find the emotional dimension to be one of the
most cardinal dimensions amongst others. Truth be said, emotions affect every
area of our lives. And only those that have mastered their emotions can truly
succeed. For instance, in the work place you hear something like “emotional
intelligence” which is a vital quality to make it big there. Emotional
intelligence is another word for emotional mastery. Without it you cannot
succeed in the workplace, without it you cannot succeed in relationships, you
can’t just succeed. Without it you won’t be able to differentiate between your
home and your workplace. If for instance, you are the boss at work, without
emotional mastery, you will come home to your family, ordering your wife and children
the same way you do at work. Without emotional mastery, you won’t be able to
differentiate between your wife and your secretary and who you should sleep
with. It is the lack of emotional mastery that is the causal factor why our
celebrities never last in marriages- they are only actors anyway. They fail to
realize that they are only a celebrity on stage not at home- stop expecting
your wife to treat you like your fans will. Can you see how powerful recognizing
differences are? Dr Mike Murdock said “Wisdom is the ability to recognize
differences”
How do you handle criticism?
How do you handle anger? Emotional mastery/intelligence tells you that you
don’t transfer aggression or anger on somebody else who is not the person that
got you angry in the first place. It is a form of defense mechanism in
psychology called displacement . How do you handle your sexual emotions? At the
root of many mental illness, divorce, break ups, wretchedness, physical ailment
and even death is lack of emotional mastery.
Emotional mastery is simply
mastering your emotions. Solomon Jesse said, “Guard your heart with all
diligence, for out of it are the issues of life”. That’s another way of saying
guard your emotions with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life.
The heart is the seat of our emotions while the head is the seat of our logic
and reasoning. Emotional mastery is about controlling you emotions and not
allowing your emotions control you.
Mike Tyson never had
emotional mastery and it cost him his career. Strauss Kahn never had emotional
mastery and it cost him his ambition. I can keep mentioning loads and loads of
people who lack of emotional mastery cost them something valuable. Lack of
emotional mastery will always cost you something, something valuable.
#getwisdom
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