Once upon a time, in the country called Nigeria, virginity was held in high esteem, it was cherished and preached. According to the stories of my father, if a young man married to a damsel, a white cloth was placed on the bed of the couple to make sure that the lady was a virgin, if she wasn’t, it become a shame to the family of the girl, the parent especially the mother of the girl is seen as irresponsible because she was not able to teach her daughter the right moral values. But if she was a virgin, the cloth that was placed on the bed of the couple is now carried with the blood on it to the family of the girl congratulating them for their heroic effort in ebibing good moral values into the lady.
But like I started the article, it is once upon a time? All these are now history. Infact I never met this when I was born, today reverse is the case; virgins are seen as aliens, dummies and morons. While sexually active teenagers and adolescent are seen as smart, clever and wise. Virginity has been displaced in our society. Right moral values are not more being incocated in the lives of our young ones. What are we doing about this? I am not saying we should start placing white clothes on the bed of new wedded couple; I am talking about building the right culture and values. We are no longer placing values on the right things. Virgins are now even feeling inferior to those who are virgin, sometimes they even go ahead to lie just because they want to feel among. If you are a virgin carry it with all pride and dignity don’t be ashamed to tell necessary people that you are a virgin.
What will be special on you wedding night if you have been sleeping with your fiancé or fiancée before hand? Nothing. Why do you think God placed an hymen on your virgina? Do you think it is a product of mistake? If it were some people would have had hymen while others wouldn’t have had. But 99.9% of ladies have hymen, so it is a deliberate act of God. You cannot be wiser than God. He wants that hymen to broken by one person-your husband.
Lets liken the virgina to be land; as far as I know, every land has an owner and every land that doesn’t want intruders is properly fenced. You are the owner of you land, the fence on you land is your hymen anybody that wants to intrude is a stranger. Once the fence of a land is destroyed, it has lost its protection. It will be easily molested. Please, I beg you, cherish your land. I am sorry if you are not a virgin, but God is always available to get us back on track, it’s all about you.
2 comments:
sometimes peer pressure and inferiority complex makes ladies loose their virginity. but are guys not supposed
to keep themselves too?
everyone including guys and girls are expected to keep their virginity irrespective of the pressure or circumstance.
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